"Stolen" Baby Names

[briggsy's girl]

given your distance from me, i would possibly still use it, but i'd likely be peeved at you for using it for a while! it is a name we've decided on a long time ago. BUT, depending on how close the births were i would possibly use the other name we love for now, and use that name later. i feel we've become pretty close over the past couple of years on BB (as close as purely online friends can be) and i don't know if i'd feel comfy using that name if you did. it would be nothing against you using it (plus you can't, unless you're UTD and haven't shared!) - it would more be about that perception of not being creative enough to use a different name kwim?

i think even with the boy name we want (which means i have to go back - bugger!), if BW had used it, i wouldn't have held it against her, but i don't think i'd have used it for this baby. everyone knows we're good friends (hell, half the site time BG instead of BW or vice verse!) and i would feel that there is a perception that we're not individual if we even named our babies the same...


hope that makes sense (and doesn't make me sound tooo neurotic)

BG

[paradise lost]

Aw hun you don't sound neurotic at all! And sadly no, i'm neither UTD or likely to be able to resist sharing once i am! LOL.

So is it external perception (of other folk) that concerns people? That others would think you'd stolen a name yourself i mean, or as you say, that you're not creative?

My SIL named her #1 after a kid they saw in a bus shelter one day. Actually i saw the family and the kid too and it put me RIGHT OFF the name (parents looked about 17 and were both smoking into the buggy while screaming at the kid, who looked about 15months, to shut the f up crying, they were sick of hearing it, kid was in frilly socks, little dress, no blanket, coat or cardigan and was BLUE with the cold, both parents were in thick jackets...), but they really liked it. It's funny what one person will like another will reject completely, perhaps they didn't see the situation the way i did, or perhaps they just heard the name and didn't look any further.

Bx

[briggsy's girl]

with some of my online friends, it would be about the perception - but mostly i'd not like to be in a position where my child was named the same as one of my besties kidlets! it's not fair to them - in the situation where you DO get together, i'd not like having to use the kidlets FULL name just to get their attention...

it's not the same, but i was one of three in my class with the same name from grade one through to year 12 (damn the small town!) and it frustrated me - i imagine it would be worse if you went to school PLUS your parents were friends and you were together outside of school all your life kwim?

and Bx, i had a fair idea any pg wouldn't be very secret (better not be!!) - you can't be trying yet anyway - we have to ttc #2 together and i ain't even popped out number one! and if we DO get pg same time, i'll be telling you the names we have picked reeeeeeeeeeeal early! lol

[lilima]

In our Sept 2006 thread, there are a few people who have named their second baby after someone in the Sept thread's first child. I think I would take it as a compliment.

[Willow]

In our Sept 2006 thread, there are a few people who have named their second baby after someone in the Sept thread's first child. I think I would take it as a compliment

See to me, that wouldn't be a compliment, I'd see that as a lack of creativity...no offence to those girls! It obviously works for everyone concerned but I'd hate it, four of us having a child with the same name...meh.

That's just me though, I'm like this with everything. I HATE it when people go out and buy the same dress, handbag, jewellery etc that they've seen me with. I had a friend in high school that would do it CONSTANTLY...in the end I felt like a twin and started lying to her about where I got my stuff or telling her 'I dunno, my mum got it for me'