They stole 'our' name!

[catherinemoses]

Friends of our have just had a baby and they have named it the name we have chosen (and not shared!) for if we have a boy.
We have no other boy names, and we have had this name for AGES!!!!
Do you think it is still ok to use it?
They are not our best friends but they are good friends. They do live on the other side of the country and we hardly ever see them.
I'm leaning towards it doesn't really matter, but at the same time I don't want all of our mutual friends thinking we are copying!
ARGH! What a pain!

[Rach75]

i would comment how much you love the name and it is you number one choice, for bubs and how you hop ethey wont be weirded out if you go ahead and use it

it might be different in you lived in the same street same town saw each other all the time etc

[~clover~]

You don't have any back ups?

[DaintreeDream]

I agree with Rach.

You poor thing, all 3 of DH and my siblings have just had a baby this year and I was so worried that they would use one of our names, lucky for us they have totally different taste, so it seems.

I say go ahead and use it, just pre-warn them maybe that it is the name you have had chosen for a long time, but once again as Rach said, if they are in a different state it isn't like you are going for coffee all the time where it may get confusing etc.

Good Luck .

[catherinemoses]

Thanks girls.

Yeah I think the distance is a big plus. I'm more worried about looking like a copycat/ not being able to come up with our own name!

No we don't have any back ups! We decided on it very early and have just stuck with it.

Maybe we will have a little girl and I will heva been worried for nothing?!

Thanks again

[~Trish~]

Oh my goodness Cate, look at your ticker ! I can't believe you're nearly ready to pop!

Ooh, that has always been a fear of mine that a friend would chose a name that we had picked out. I reckon though that because they live so far away that you can get away with it. You can always explain to them and to anyone else who mentions it that you have had this name picked out for a very long time and can't imagine naming bub anything else. I'm sure people would understand

[Just Me]

Thanks girls.

Yeah I think the distance is a big plus. I'm more worried about looking like a copycat/ not being able to come up with our own name!

No we don't have any back ups! We decided on it very early and have just stuck with it.

Maybe we will have a little girl and I will heva been worried for nothing?!

Thanks again

I have a friend who had a baby about 2 months after me and named him the same as I named my DS. She didn't tell me until after the baby was born which name they had picked and honestly, I really don't care. I complimented her on her taste in baby names and left it at that . . . I never even considered that she named her baby that because she was copying either.

She felt a bit guilty about it and recently talked to me about it. I told her that honestly finding a boys name is hard and I wouldn't not use a name just because someone else has used it. They will know other people with their name in their lifetime and by the time they are a couple of weeks old, that name belongs to them just as much as to anyone else. It doesn't matter.

I say go ahead and use the name that you have chosen. It is really not that bad having friends with the same baby name as you. Everyone gets used to it quickly and it all just becomes part of life.

[luna moth]

TBH I think it depends how common it is - if it is really unusual, like Zeladian or something, then, yeah, it's going to look a little funny. But if it's something more sedate, like Oliver, then it's far less of an issue.