TBH I think it depends how common it is - if it is really unusual, like Zeladian or something, then, yeah, it's going to look a little funny. But if it's something more sedate, like Oliver, then it's far less of an issue.
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TBH I think it depends how common it is - if it is really unusual, like Zeladian or something, then, yeah, it's going to look a little funny. But if it's something more sedate, like Oliver, then it's far less of an issue.
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I agree, just get in straight away and say something like "omg - what great taste, thats what we are naming this little one if he is a boy too!"
I had a friend who tried to change the name slightly of their newborn to my ds who was 3 mths older. I think she was a bit embarrassed but I didnt care about it, after all its not like I am the only person in the history of the world to call my child that, even though its not a common name.
They were welcome to use it and I wish they hadnt tried to pretend that they werent using the same name. Better to be upfront I think.
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Personally i would choose another name.
that would really anoy me.... esp if you had explained that you really wanted to use that name!
Hopefully you will find a better one
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I hear what you're saying! This is a touchy subject for me too lol! Not that anyone has taken our name for DS as yet. (They better not as I've just ordered stickers and iron labels with his name on them lol)!
But I loved so many names, to be told by family / friends etc that "oh, that's so and so's son's name" - e.g. my brothers boss' son, or a colleague from works son etc - none of which we socialise with either by the way! But we still felt odd using those certain names - so we chose another. I'm not sure but I think it's because I like being unique - rather than just copying...
I think whatever feels comfortable for you - but yeah, I'd give them a heads up that you love the name and have planned to use that name for ages
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How annoying for you!
When we had just started trying for our bub we were planing on giving our son my maiden name as a first name, but my Uncle used the name for his son 16 months before our DS was born, so we thought of another name and used my maiden name as the middle name instead,
Last year our good friends had their second boy, they admited to us after he was born that they were planning on stealing our girls name if he was a girl. I wasn't ofended though, the way i see it first in best dressed.
If you still love the name you should use it any way, however I wouldnt use it, cause it would be annoying having kids with the same name, maybe you could use the name as sa middle name instead
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I'd be saying "love the name - we've picked that for a boy too! Great minds and all that" too. If you rarely see them it's not an issue. Both me and a girl from my TTC group announced our pregnancies at the same time, we gave our sons the same two first names! Without consulting each other or knowing. She just has fab taste.
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Exactly! You love the name, use it. And give them the heads up so you don't feel like they think you are copying...speak up asap.
My stepbrother and his wife named gave their DD the same name as our DD...they are only 3 months apart. We'd both come up with the name completely independently and we never see them...we don't really care. If their DD had been born first I don't think we would have changed our minds because we'd been set on the name for years...DS was going to be named this if he had been a girl.
It probably makes life a bit confusing for my Mum and stepdad though!
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Curly - My stepbrother and his wife named their DS2 the same name as our DS1! They always liked the name so they chose to name him that even though we'd named our DS first. We don't mind, like you we rarely ever see them. It does get confusing when my mum and stepdad are talking about one of them though LOL!
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Have you just uncovered the name of Arimeh's baking bundle?
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