Both childrens middle names have been chosen out of respect for deceased family members - it was our choice both times and there was no pressure on us at all. DD's middle name is Kate, my grandmothers name was Katica (Croatian) so we angliscised (sp?) it to Kate. Alex's middle name is Ivan after DH's grandfather who passed away whilst I was pregnant.

If this baby is a girl chances are its middle name will be Marie or Maria after DH's grandmother who passed away a year ago, she was such a lovely woman and we miss her so much.

We have considered other names as middle names that were not family related, eg we both love the name Grace for a middle name, but in the end decided to go the family names. And they seemed to go ok with our chosen first names so it was no skin off our noses so to speak.