I just cycle through all our distraction techniques (songs, toys, random objects within arms reach ) until something works, other times I just have to tell him where we are going/ what we are doing next.
Sometimes though it's just a wait it out, protect him from harming himself but latting him go nuts for a min and trying again. Sometimes they just need to get that frustration out.
Something else I do is give him a choice - ie you can hold my hand or I can carry you. Sit in the trolley or walk nicely. You can wear your red shirt or your blue shirt. It gives them the feeling of having some control while you get the outcome you need/ want.
Not sure if any of that helps (and sorry if I've repeated anyone, haven't read the other responses)
Sorry to hear your motherhood skills are being tested and that you are doubting yourself. She sounds like a typical 19mo to me. Trying to exert her independence but not equipped to express herself verbally and resorting to the crying and tantrums to tell you how she feels. Honestly, the tantrums don't stop for years yet, but your ability to reason with her will.
Have you spoken to her carers at DC? Does she exhibit these behaviours there and what do they do to manage the situation? Maybe using the same techniques to provide consistency in approach?????
The only discipline I have tried with M is moving her away from me when she does something that she shouldn't. This upsets her greatly. Not sure how practical it is to do in the middle of the shopping centre.
She has been through a lot of changes and doesn't have the development to deal with a lot of her frustrations but it does sound like typical behaviour - I found that the 18m - 2y age is the most trying. Both my DD's were similar but as soon as they started to develop language so that they were able to communicate their needs things started to improve.
He is also 19 months old. He sleeps really badly at night - doesn't sleep at all during the day. Is on the go all day and just screams and tantrums most of the day. I am a full time working mum and sometimes dread the thought of the weekends. I love him to pieces as he is very cuddly. Sometimes the problem is that when I am not cuddling him, it's when he's screaming. IE: when I'm cooking dinner, on the toilet etc etc.
His brother was a bit like this, but not quite on the same scale. I just keep in mind that it is his age and eventually will be quite reasonable.
Logic dictates that if he slept well at night, he would probably be very happy during the day. But, he's 19 months old so, adult logic doesn't work. I've tried it.!!!
It's soo hard hey.
) until something works, other times I just have to tell him where we are going/ what we are doing next.
(and sorry if I've repeated anyone, haven't read the other responses)
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