2.5 year old with majooor attitude ... hellllp!!!

[kirsty_lee]

So I think my 2.5 year has turned into a toddler!!!!!! Its seriously doing my head in. Especially her latest new phrases "Go Away", " I don't want too", "Shut up" and my all time favourite "I don't care!" .. yep she uses all of these in context I just don't know how to make it stop! She's already not listening, which is frustrating enough as it is, but when you ask her to stop what she's doing, that's when you get the "I don't want to, I don't care" And it's all I hear lately. I've been calm with her and got down on her level and told her nicely that we don't say that and it's not very nice and it makes mummy sad when we say it, but that doesn't make any difference. I am just at my wits end at the moment and starting to really lose patience. Please tell me I am not the only one, and what did you do to cope with it!

[Footsteps]

I have no advice huni but huge hugs and I hope some lovely ladies have some advice. xox

[beckoes]

oh hun, DD is just 2 and went through a phase of totally hating DP for about a week, was terrible! would let him near her, and would just shout ''i hate you daddy, get away from me'' but we tried really hard not to make a fuss and it passed.
Different to your situation but maybe its just a phase, she is pusshing boundries and learing that she can control things. no real advice....il think about it! hope you get some good advice!

[Mother Goose]

I have no idea but my 3.5 year old is the same. She screams and screams. I am so over it. I am dreading the teen years.

I've also tried the calm voice, getting on her level, rationalising it with her, ignoring, praising good behavior... and it's done nothing. I've tried time out, removal of toys... I don't know what else to do...

[Mum2SweetCs]

KL my DD is 2 yrs and 3 months and she has major attitude too! "No", "Go away", "You cant do that!" "Dont touch me!" Last night, she chucked all my papers around the room and i asked her to not do it 3 times. I then held her hands together and told her to "Stop, the paper is making a mess" before threatening the naughty corner. She said to me "Mum stop that! Dont touch me! You cant do that. Go away"

Seriously, soon she will be calling DOCS on me =(

[*EJ*]

"2, 2.5, 3, 3.5 they all do it", is what i keep getting told

Each day i keep reminding myself it's normal or a phase that will pass, i keep looking at my parenting and thinking that i must be somehow failing and failing him to be having a child with this attitude. As i type he's screaming at his little brother for even being close to him it's so disheartening at times.

Honestly i have no real advice because i'm struggling too and have been going to post something myself but haven't gotten around to it. He may have caught me on an emotional day but last Saturday he had me in tears within less than an hour of being up.

Getting down to her level and calming talking to her sounds great, i think what i'm beginning to learn is at their age as nicely as we say things and try and explain ourselves as clearly as possible it doesn't mean they'll listen to reason in any way. I was told by my DS's day carer to try keep calm and replicate the things we want them to do, the sharing, the taking turns, speaking nicely to each other. We're not going anywhere today and i'm going to give it a go, get down on their level play with them and really try and throw in some positive examples of 'being kind' and 'playing well with others'. It's a daily battle and i hope it gets easier.

I'm absolutely terrified about having a teenager

[krysalyss]

My advice is - be really nice to your partner and vice versa. They will be the ones to give you cuddles as you await the return of your normal little girl. She will pop in from time to time - just enough to give you hope, but don't expect her to stay for at least a few more years. I will let you know when my little DS comes home. :P