Naenae, I had a bit of a tough time when I first had my two. For the first 6mths of DS's life I honestly struggled. I had undiagnosed AND/PND though, and when I had DS it just got worse. Plus I didn't have much help from family/friends unless I asked. And with severe sleep deprivation thrown in there too, I was pretty miserable for a while. My DH did what he could which was/is alot compared to many, but there's only so much he could do since he works full time and shift work at that! But now I wouldn't have it any other way. If I was well mentally, I think I would have loved having my babies so close. I am really enjoying them now, they're so much fun and they really do adore each other.

On the practical side, having a second new born was easier because I knew what to do. DS was also a bit easier and wasn't as fussy as DD was, so was just an easier baby.
When they were both crying and we were all having a bad day, I would try to get out of the house and go to my mums or a friends house. Then I wouldn't be so cooped up and would have a little respite. There were two or three occaisions when I called my mum and/or DH in sobbing tears begging them to come and help me. Once they came and put things into perspective, it was all ok and I could see it wasn't so bad!
I want to go back and have number 3, so it hasn't done too much damage to my psyche!!