Thankyou all for you suggestions, I am off to the supermarket to get some supplies Where would I find psyllium husks? Because I can mix them into her porridge, I can also add juice to her porridge, she used to have fruit and juice in with her porridge, but for quite a while she had gone to yogurt mixed in with it. She had also been eating pears for desert at dinner, but hadn't done so for a couple of days, so I must get her back into them again as well.

DD1 doesn't have a problem doing a poo on the toilet or potty, she actually has only done two in nappies for the past few months (one when she was sick and one partway through getting her nappy off). she's actually pretty proud of being able to do it, so i don't think she would be holding it in, and what got me yesterday was that she was sitting on the potty saying she was doing a poo, and then getting up and say oh no poo My bottom hurts
I will get the pear and prune juice into her today and also do some massage if we don't get movement happening soon we will get something a bit more substantial like the other suggestions above, because I guess it only gets worse... I would feel horrible if she ended up tearing

Thankyou