2 yr old runs away, 4 year old whinges alot, 5 yr old acts up. advice pls

[Olive]

read the book 1-2-3 magic!

[Doodlebug]

No advice on the 2yr old or the 5yr old sorry.

The 4yr old and whinging, my ds1 did this. Basically I just ignored him. Sounds horrible but I told him once that 'mummy doesn't understand whinging' and left it at that. If he whinged I went about what I was doing until he stopped or got bored and walked away. If he walked away I would wait a minute then go see him and ask him if he wanted something when he came up to me earlier. This way he'd know I noticed him, but I wasn't aknowledging the whinging. Make sense? It took a little while but it sunk in and all good now.

Good luck!

[sue1386]

thanks for the tip

could i ask you pls to give me a few tidbits from the book that you think are helpful as not all mums can read books instantly. if you could that would be much appreciated

thanks.

[ss_storm]

if you google 1-2-3 magic it comes up with the site for the book. Apparently there is also a dvd so if you don't have time to read a book you could just get the dvd instead?

[sue1386]

thanks. i find cds best as i can move around and listen to them and still do things that i cant do while watching a dvd or reading a book. maybe my library has them thanks.

[Doodlebug]

Maybe just turn away from him and do something else if you can't leave the room.

I totally agree with the 1-2-3 magic book. I did the course as well and foubd it really helpful.

[sue1386]

1 2 3 magic pls can u tell me a bit of examples or techniques from it pls

timing is everything

there has been times i could read or do a course or watch a dvd

i am unable to currently so would really appreciate anyone who could give me a few details of some techniques this course mentions thanks.

[sue1386]

thanks re whinging child yes much as i've been advise but difficult to walk away as house is mainly lounge room and to watch the kids thats where i need to be and its not big

any suggestions there?