Hi Sleepless in Tas,
I know what it's like to have dramas putting the bub down
My 19 mo has times like that, but not quite that severe.
What I do is give him a bottle in his cot (which is what you're doing) and put some music on that is soothing (Enya and Clannad are favourites). He sleeps with his favourite teddy and I tuck him and say goodnight to teddy aswell. We have the music on in his room before he is put to bed.
I hope that helps! Good luck muffin.
xx