Thanks everyone for your replies, please keep them coming, I need all the help I can get. My son has never really been one to actually call out "mummy or daddy" directly, he wakes up crying / screaming everytime he wakes. I don't really know what would happen if I ignored him in the middle of the night, I am assuming he would walk into us. I keep a night light on in his bedroom (very dimly lit) and the toilet light on with the door closed just in case he does get up, so he doesn't run into the wall. I know I should just accept him for who he is and the fact that he isn't a great sleeper but I just get so very frustrated, especially when my head has just hit that pillow after a long day at work...blah, blah, blah. I am sitting here typing listening to him scream because he has decided he doesn't want to go to bed tonight so I have decided to leave him (it's been 10 minutes - lets see how long it will last - within reason of course)! I know all kids are different and they all reach milestones etc. at different times in their lives but how am I going to do it with two!!! I certainly know that there will be changes with sleeping routines etc. when number 2 comes along. Well I better be off, I can here him coming down the hallway - screaming at the same time.... Thanks everyone... xxoo