ooo a torch i never though of that, he does have a night light and a froggie blanket that his biological dad brought for him and he is quite attatched to, but i might give the torch idea a go. it is quite possible that he wakes diorientated as sometimes he find it hard to differentiate between reality, dreams and his imagination...

its tough but we are trying to be consistent and reassuring. everynight dh and i discuss our plan for the night and im forever greatful to dh as he is great at taking turns at getting up and taking the kids so i get me time and a snooze which helps alot.

last night we only got up 3 times all of which were due to the thunder so quite understandable really....

thank you all for your kind words support and advice i trully love the BB community