thanks for tips. We are making sure we distinguish between day and nights and I think she just needs to adjust in her own time and we have to realise this

We saw her pediatrician today and he basically said to just let her cry to sleep, but we can't do that and I don't think it would work either. I think he is old school. He said she doesn't have a memory yet so wont remember being left to cry, but then in the same sentence he said she would get used to be held to sleep - so go figure!