You are doing a really terrific job. There is no need to stress about what is normal. Normal doesn't exist. All our bubs are different and many are not eating full meals or even three meals a day until 12months. Your GP mightn't have said much as they may be no problem with what your daughter is doing! She sounds perfectly fine playing with her food, being a monkey etc I would really stick with milk feeds first then solids half an hour afterwards for about 10-15mins (if you are spoon feeding). If she is not taking it she doesn't need it and is not hungry. My DD has only a tablespoon of solids some meals and she simply doesn't want more. Keep up your super work!