Am I supposed to pay attention to attention-seeking behaviour?!?

[Snacks]

Mel: Hope you find some help here too.
Mel: Thanks, I will make sure I take her to the toilet myself. As for the eating, I would be thrilled if Natty ate any vegetables, let alone a steak. Hopefully it is a phase that she'll grow out of... soon.

OG:

so you know its "attention seeking" wouldnt it then be a good idea to give her the attention she needs?

That's my question! I feel as though I am giving her positive attention at times when she is displaying behaviour that I approve of. I am wondering at times when she displays behaviours that I don't approve of whether I should be ignoring this or doing what I am doing (which is responding verbally or physically removing her at times). Yes, I imagine there are any number of reasons for her wanting my attention. Could be that she is a toddler and that's what they do. Could be because she hates having a sister. Could be because I have gone back to work and she's not coping. I do not know. My issue is the display of anti-social behaviour and how to address it.

SS: Thanks also for the toileting tip. Will have to remember "sneaky wees". LOL!

[Snowy Love]

Love the sneaky wees idea - gonna try that!

[Visitor8]

I have never and would never attention those negative behaviours. It just encourages it. This isn't a 1 year old who doesn't get it, this is a 3 year old who is doing it to be naughty. She knows what she is doing is wrong.