they should recruit mothers pf 2-4yos as UN negotiators I reckon.
hun.

Same as Bath and Lulu, I have learned to pick my battles. Don't want your nappy changed/hair brushed/face washed/whatever - fine, I have better things to do than argue. Let me know when you're ready. I also just stop asking and do what I need/want to so. They push your buttons cos they can. Then they feed of the energy you reflect like little gremlins. They're still learning what reaction/no reaction can do to who.

As for the Danger stuff, well then I bring out the policeman's armed vehicle takedown voice (accademy had to be useful for something ) - and they stop pretty quick. I only reserve it for dangerous stuff and usually STOP! works.....I don't explain. I stop them, redirect or distract and then maybe later we can talk about it....no good an explanation in an emergency.