Asks for Nappy for Poos

[Frangipani Lou]

I agree with Hotl. They cannot refuse children who aren't toilet trained. It is harder for supervision when needing to change a nappy, so that could be why. id ask them why they prefer children to be TT. I had a child who was 4 1/2 and still in nappies start in my kinder this year and had he not TT over a weekend, we would have made provisions for changing him.
I'd encourage you to speak with the teachers now and let them know that you are working on it and together work out a strategy that's going to work for everyone.
Would you be open to packing a pull-up for poos? If she does do a poo in one its the same as changing a child who's has an accident in their undies so the staff should be pretty used to that with 3 year olds.
I'm happy to give more suggestions or answer questions if I can help at all.

[goddessofdawn]

But this isn't normal kindy, this is privately-run pre-kindy for 3 year olds.... So I assumed they could make their own rules?? They are teachers, not child care workers, so they don't change nappies... I really wish this wasn't the case

I've tried to encourage DD to sit on the toilet with a nappy on, but she has her own spot for doing poos - "in the corner"! I will have to gradually try and convince her.
I have to be very careful though because stool withholding is something I can not go through again. It was far too stressful for both of us.

[LimeSlice]

But this isn't normal kindy, this is privately-run pre-kindy for 3 year olds.... So I assumed they could make their own rules?? They are teachers, not child care workers, so they don't change nappies... I really wish this wasn't the case

I also sent my DD to a private 3 year old kinder, not a child care centre. No, they won't change nappies, but you won't send her n nappies. But they assist the child with changing in the case of accidents. If you have been to the doctor and she has had medical issues with withholding etc anyway, they certainly cannot discriminate. I would suggest you sitting down with the director and discussing the issue.

Have you tried removing the nappies altogether? As in, they aren't in the house so she has no other option but to go in the toilet?

[Ginger]

ds1 was exactly the same as this. used to beg for a nappy when he needed to poo. eventually one day it all just clicked- he needed a poo and he went to the toilet. it really was a matter of time and patience.
our kinder will take kids in nappies but they will call you to come and change it if they soil it. how many hours is she there for?
fwiw my ds2 is 3 yrs and 10 months and is not TTed. not even for wees.