I wrote a very similar thread a few months ago, as I think one too many people had said 'oohhh she's a real mummy's girl isn't she' and it used to drive me batty. But I too was feeling like she'd always be clingy, as she went through such a long stage of it - everything you are describing. She is now 10 months old, and for the last say 6 weeks she has really developed some confidence and is nowhere near as clingy, and generally happy to go to everyone now. She even had her first day in CC yesterday and didn't get upset at all, so it does pass. Until the next bought of it anyways I'm sure.....
Everyone lately has said how confident she seems, and the only thing I can think of is that we let her be clingy if that was what she wanted, we never forced her on anyone or out of our arms, we let her decide herself when she was ready. So MadB makes alot of sense when she says that forcing it will increase the anxiety. For you and her. Try not to compare her to the other bubs around you (it's hard I know) as they will all be doing things in their own unique individual way.
I used to pre-empt the comments by saying "he loves me, can't be without me" (in a happy way, not complaining IFYWIM) People can't argue with that, and it frames it as a good thing, both in my mind & theirs.
Thanks girls - I think I just needed some encouragement from other mummies that yes, this is normal! After a while it gets you down when people always comment on it. Snowy I like your idea and Sloane I really do love that she is super cuddly - having waited so long and gone through so much to have her, I am happy to give her lots of cuddles I definitely don't want to force her to go to other people, usually once she gets upset I give her a few seconds to see if she'll calm down i.e. I don't snatch her back immediately haha, then she comes back to me. Always stops crying straight away, cheeky little monkey!!
Ok so feeling much more positive about this now - thanks BB as usual!
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I definitely don't want to force her to go to other people, usually once she gets upset I give her a few seconds to see if she'll calm down i.e. I don't snatch her back immediately haha, then she comes back to me. Always stops crying straight away, cheeky little monkey!!
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