I am, as ever with anything written about how to parent children the author has never met, totally unimpressed. My child was NEVER left to cry and she is a thumb-sucker AND has a toy she loves. There were times when i guess DD might have been "crying to heal" but she REFUSED the breast and cried MORE when i rocked her, so holding was all i COULD do - it was the baby, not a book, which led me to do as i did.

Also to ME (JMO) a parent who offers no rewards, no punishments, no criticism and no praise of their child is not parenting, but rather witnessing. Having seen the smile on my daughters face when my redirection has helped her succeed, or i am shouting and clapping in joy at her success, i believe she needs a parent, not a silent witness.

It isn't for me.

Bx