Don't worry/stress too much about the 7pm bedtime, ds didn't really go to sleep much before 8:30pm and still at about 2.5yrs old he only goes to sleep around 9pm - he won't sleep before then - the stress wasn't worth trying to get him to sleep be fore 8:30
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Ours always had 7 as a bed time from early on but realistically, it did mean that on some nights it was 6, 7, or 8 at that age depending on feeds. For us though any feeds after 7 were quiet dark feeds, as opposed to the others that were out in the lounge, tv on and people around ITMS. If your DH doesn't get home until later maybe you could adjust things so that he could spend some time with bub - maybe bath etc before hand and put into pjs. Take bubs cue and do what suits you xoxo
Thanks for the replies everyone.
It's nice to hear what others do. I have a group of friends who all tend to do things the same and they're all pretty strict about a 7 pm bedtime. I have had a few funny looks about Dd not going to bed till 8.30 Nowdays but she sleeps all night and goes to sleep with no probs so it works for us.
My sisters kids have never had set bedtimes due to her DH working late too, and they have always been bad sleepers so I was scared that bedtime might be a factor.
You're right - they so do t read the books. Up again all night from 2 pm last night.
We always tried to get DS to bed between 7 and 7:30pm. Personally, I don't think bedtime is overly important, as long as it works for you. A friend's little girls don't sleep til about 9pm, but they don't get up before 8am either! It works for them!
I think being consistent in your bedtime routine is more important. e.g. bath, book, quiet feed, bed at roughly the same time, whether it be 7pm or 9pm. Also, DH used to work late but had the flexibility to change, so now he goes in earlier and gets home earlier. Is that an option for your DH? Bath/shower time has always been their special time together too - took DH a while to appreciate how special it is.
I followed a similar book which revolved around the 7pm bedtime - and it used to stress me out no end.
My baby too would not last the afternoon and have another catnap waking sometimes at about 5,30/6pm even
(this was under the age of 3 or 4 months) - so to expect bub to go to sleep again at 7pm was crazy!!
I found bub went to sleep again 8.30ish/ 9pm in those early days.
I remember being very stressed and my Health nurse simply said to me "maybe he doenst want to go to bed at 7pm!!"
so sensible....penny dropped and I just stopped forcing it and let him go to bed when i caught the tired signs
Anyway I must say as bub got older after about 3 or 4 months we got closer and closer to 7pm bed time...i was getting him
to sleep at 8pm then it starting getting earlier by 15 min bit by bit until we got into a great routine and he didnt cat nap so late and went to bed at about 7pm
like magic...
I always found that my first bub could sleep for a 30min power nap at about 4pm then.. have dinner/milk ... bath..and get to bed by 7pm without messing
his evening sleep..(this may not be all babies and i may have just been lucky)
My first bub is now 3 and has gone to bed at 7pm pretty much since the age of 4-6 months of age...lately that is starting to creep up to 7.30pm
and that is just a logisitic thing with getting home from work etc..
Anyhow..
So what I am hopefully conveying to you is that you will get there and 7pm is about right for little ones and follow you instincts and how
your baby is feeling. I swear by the books as a guide but found in those first few months follow the baby (feeding every 3 hours bascially)
and when you want a little of your own life back start following the guide of the book(s) and take the advice/ routine /setup that you like and
works for you and your baby..best of luck ...its a journey but you will look back and hopefully cherish this time.
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