Hi I am wondering if anyone has experienced this scenario - My 21 month old has been in creche now for a few months, only a few days per week. She seems to enjoy it, however I have begun noticing a few behaviour changes in relation to her attachment to strangers. When we go to the shops I have found that sometimes she just runs up to strangers and puts her hands out for a cuddle. I found out at creche she seems to be doing the same thing (when parents enter the room who she doesnt know running up to them and asking for a hug). She is continually asking the staff members for cuddles, and they do, however are very aware that she likes to be picked up (which we are getting strick on at home). But what about this stranger issue. Does anyone have any advice?
Kaitlyn is in daycare 3days a week . She has walked up to a stranger before and wanted a cuddle ...but she still does show some awareness of strangers. I guess it is a bit more normal for our children to interact with strangers as there is a constant flow of parents coming through the room daily..a worry to some degree I know.
I wonder what age you should introduce stranger danger...probably they are still a little young .
Gemma is 19 months and in daycare and would never run up to a stranger for a cuddle. But thats her nature. Shes terrified of anyone she doesn't know and very weary. I'd sit down with her and start going through the stranger danger thing. I know she's young, but you'd be amazed at what kids pick up on.
Milo is is in daycare 3 days a week, but he has been since 5 months, so its not really possible for me to know whether he would have had this behaviour regardless (or going to creche or not)
Some people he is aloof with, even wary of, while others he will take to immediately, it depends on the person. Even with kids, he is the same.
Eliza is in daycare 2 days a week and exhibits the same behaviour .We can be in the supermarket and she will hug mainly other kids and wont let go...many of the kids are frightened to death and she comes hurling herself at them. At 2 it isnt a problem yet...at 3 it will be and especially if she wants to hug adults that we dont know.
Daycare for us has so many benefits, but I too am starting to crack down on the carrying and have asked if they dont pick her up while she is there.
Bec
Thanks Bec, It is so good to know that this is sort of 'normalish' behaviour. I know its just a phase, but the stranger part is a no no. Whenever my little girl wants to be picked up a creche (except when she is really upset), they have started getting down to her level - ie sitting on the floor with her, so she doesnt expect to be picked up so much. Hopefully this little change will help!
Nicole
Nicole, Fergus is not in any sort of childcare or preschool etc and he does exactly as you describe your daughter -except he doesn't just stop at cuddles, he wants to talk to them, to kiss them or if they are not within reach he blows kisses to people. He is a happy, confident and super friendly little boy and expects everyone he meets to love and adore him. Kinda cute, but as you say it's also kinda dangerous. I think it's just a normal part of the development of their particular personality type. I figure once he gets a bit older and understands things a bit more we'll have the stranger danger talks...
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.We can be in the supermarket and she will hug mainly other kids and wont let go...many of the kids are frightened to death and she comes hurling herself at them. At 2 it isnt a problem yet...at 3 it will be and especially if she wants to hug adults that we dont know.
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