Worst: any advice that ends with "if you don't do this you'll kill your baby" or words to that effect. Had this in hospital on day 2 (I'm starving him and if I don't top him up I'll kill him so the evil midwife will take him away and do it anyway) and from my mum (on co-sleeping, which in the first week was the only way to get any sleep at night).

Best: from my DH, just reassurance that even though Liebling is crying and we don't know why, that I'm a fantastic mother and doing the best for him. It really keeps me going if he's really unsettled and he never tells me what to do or informs me he'll just take over, as my mother did. It's also fab we both think Liebling is more important than housework (although the house is kept clean).

Most stupid (had to put these in, advice that is just stupid and isn't even worth mentioning that I'm ignoring it!): from my mum, that DH should "get over himself". He suffers from anxiety, made worse through lack of sleep, so no, I don't expect him to sleep with me when we're still getting up all night, nor do I expect him to keep getting me drinks all night, I can just sleep with a couple of pints of water next to the bed. Neither of us like it, but it's better he sleeps on a camp bed in the nursery for now. And from DH - that although he was stopping with his parents for a bit while my mum was staying, he wasn't going to leave me. The thought hadn't crossed my mind until then!