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thread: Best/Worst Advice on Raising Kids

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    Best/Worst Advice on Raising Kids

    Once we have had our babies we all get advice of some sort good/bad and just plain outrageous LOL. What is the best or worst advice somebody has ever given you to help you in the raising of your baby/toddler/child

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jul 2004
    5,756

    Best advice i was given was by DP's mother. People will give you advice whether you think it good or bad. You can take it but don't have to agree with it. Just do what YOU think is right!

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    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
    11,171

    My mum said essentially the same thing Tegan.

    "Everyone will give you advice including me, listen to it politely & then do what you want."

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    Breastfeeding mummy extraordinaire

    Sep 2004
    Sydney's Norwest
    4,954

    I have to agree that is the best advice. Every one has an opinion on how to raise kids. Usually more so are the people without them. Listen (or pretend too) then do as you see fit.

    Take care
    Trish

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    Jun 2003
    Ubiquity
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    My bests are pretty much the same as others so heres another best:

    No matter how much you love your kids at one point or another they are going to get on your nerves and that is completely OK! So don't feel guilty about it.

    *hugs*
    Cailin

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    Life Member

    May 2003
    Beautiful Adelaide!
    2,877

    Good Advice For Me

    "Aim to have more good days than bad........"

    "Go with your gut feeling as to what YOU think is best for your baby"

    "If at the end of the day you are all still alive, you are doing a good job"

    Bad Advice for Me

    "If a baby crys, they are naughty"

    "If your baby won't sleep it is because their needs are not being met"

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Oct 2003
    Forestville NSW
    8,944

    Worst Advice:

    It started as the usual question ; "is she a good baby?"

    I responded I have no idea because I haven't had another... and then she said. If she's not a good baby, you need to leave her alone more. That way she'll learn to be good.

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jul 2004
    5,756

    OMG Christy that's a load of bs! I mean if she's not good then she's bad right? but babies don't know how to be bad! Whoever told you that one needs to rethink their advice before they give it out again.

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    OMG Christy thats insane!!!!!!

    *hugs*
    Cailin

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Oct 2003
    Forestville NSW
    8,944

    I know and unfortunately it was a client at work otherwise I would have let her have it :-#

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    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2003
    Newcastle
    754

    the best advice i was given was to "sleep when they sleep" LOL
    oh and "mums know best so do whatever you think is right not what anyone else says"

    dont really think ive been given any bad advice really I'm sure I'll think of something

    take care
    Lesley

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    Mar 2004
    Sparta
    12,662

    omg Christy, thats so cruel it almost made me cry.
    One of the most annoying peices of advice I've been given was when Yasin woke up crying and hungry just as dinner was ready "feed yourself before your baby" :-s .

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    BellyBelly Life Member

    Jul 2004
    House of the crazy cat ladies...
    3,793

    I also like the 'sleep when they sleep advice.
    There is something else that someone once wrote on here 'No one has ever written a book on your baby'... it always made me feel better then when Aidyn wasn't conforming to what was written in those books...

    I can't remember any bad advice... moreso suggestions that I did not agree with...
    MIL had a lot of funny ideas from her traditional Chinese background, and was insistent that I should shave Aidyns head when he was born (WTF?) and some weird theories about a pure silver ring cooked in an egg being a cure for wind and just about everything else.
    I just smiled and nodded.....

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    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Oct 2003
    Forestville NSW
    8,944

    Ambah I think thats out of one of Pinky McKay's books... I agree thats great advice O

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    Melinda Guest

    I think the best advice is that "Mummy knows best" (i.e. basically what everyone else has said, that YOU know what is best for YOUR baby and that you should trust your instincts).

    The worst advice still makes my blood boil. It was something along the lines of dipping a dummy in whisky when your baby cries!!! WTF is THAT about?!?! And I was given this advice when Jacob was a matter of days old.........seriously!!!!

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    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2004
    Melbourne
    970

    exactly tootie! someone i know told me she used to dip her babies dummy's in brandy to make them sleep. this is the same woman that told me when i was procrastinating to have a glass of champagne at a wedding that she drank a heap of wine all through her pregnancy, and her daughter drank bourbon all the time!

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    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2003
    Newcastle
    754

    The worst advice still makes my blood boil. It was something along the lines of dipping a dummy in whisky when your baby cries!!! WTF is THAT about?!?! And I was given this advice when Jacob was a matter of days old.........seriously!!!!
    ok well i wasnt told it quite like that, i was told to dip it in brandy to help them go to sleep, and uhh i did it a few times when Joshua was 6 mths old 8-[ and well it did help him drift off to sleep, im not saying thats a good thing, only did it about 3 times and only because i wasnt coping i would of tried anything to get him to sleep

    i would never give him any other alcohol though, my ex's mum always gave him a sip from a wine glass despite my telling her not to

    take care
    Lesley

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    Ex adm!n, quietly rusting....

    Feb 2004
    Melbourne
    11,171

    Don't stress Lesley. My mum actually drank a little bit of brandy before breastfeeding to put my older sister to sleep. She did it a few times, but felt a guilty about it.

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