A bit sad - don't seem to be 'in tune' with DS anymore.

[MrsFabuloso]

Yep, me too. With both kids when DS2 came along. But particularly with DD. Similar to Kim, we just seem to have lost our place with each other ike we had before. I am still trying to find a groove which suits both of us. But I am sure we will get there.

[Arimeh]

Ahhh lovely I'm sure you would have heard him if you weren't tired from feeding. I think because we don't get a chance for a lot of sleep, the sleep we do get is really deep and hard to disturb lol

Sometimes kelti comes into our room crying and I don't even hear her or notice DH getting out of bed. No wonder I'm confused when I wake up all alone...

[LuluHB]

I definitely think its just tiredness too. I used to hear the girls' every snuffle, let alone getting out of bed, and now DD1 can occasionally just appear out of nowhere and startle me awake.

You're not losing your connection with your DS. You're just adjusting to having another little life to sync with too.

[~Kaz~]

I'm going to go against the grain a bit and say that I don't think it's just tiredness. I have experienced exactly what you have described with DS. And he is still an only child. And yes we have sleep issues and I am still up to him everynight but I am nowhere near as sleep deprived as I used to be. For me, being sleep deprived and responding to him (being in tune with him) went hand in hand. It's as I've become less sleep deprived that I have felt the shift.

I think it's ok to feel sad about it Sterla. I do here but your DD needs you more at night ITMS and you can only stretch yourself so far

[Sterla]

yes and yes.
And it wasn't just sleep. I remember thinking that about just about everything with her. Food, reactions to stuff, things she liked to do. She was getting bigger and more independent and I felt like I just wasn't keeping up.

You've said exactly what I've been thinking. I feel like DS has become a whole new toddler while I've been busy getting to know DD. He is learning so much so quickly, I can't keep up.

Yep, me too. With both kids when DS2 came along. But particularly with DD. Similar to Kim, we just seem to have lost our place with each other ike we had before. I am still trying to find a groove which suits both of us. But I am sure we will get there.

Sounds like it's not unusual to feel this way then .

Ahhh lovely I'm sure you would have heard him if you weren't tired from feeding. I think because we don't get a chance for a lot of sleep, the sleep we do get is really deep and hard to disturb lol

Sometimes kelti comes into our room crying and I don't even hear her or notice DH getting out of bed. No wonder I'm confused when I wake up all alone...

Thanks Mel. See I'm not so sure it's to do with sleep deprivation here, as DD sleeps fairly well most nights and I don't feel particularly tired.

I'm going to go against the grain a bit and say that I don't think it's just tiredness. I have experienced exactly what you have described with DS. And he is still an only child. And yes we have sleep issues and I am still up to him everynight but I am nowhere near as sleep deprived as I used to be. For me, being sleep deprived and responding to him (being in tune with him) went hand in hand. It's as I've become less sleep deprived that I have felt the shift.

I think it's ok to feel sad about it Sterla. I do here but your DD needs you more at night ITMS and you can only stretch yourself so far

Thanks hun .