DF informed me least night that he is "ready" for us to have another baby. I thought he was ready ages ago, but anyway...
I don't think we can afford to. At the beginning we'd be ok, but later on - with school fees, more in groceries, etc - I think it will push us over the edge. And we won't mention that we are still living with MIL at the moment and aren't sure when we'll be able to move. Although, the house is being renovated to be dual living and wil hopefully be ready in the next month () MIL doesn't want another baby in the house.
We still have the cot, change table, baby bath, heaps of baby clothes, enough toys to open a day care centre, etc. It'd really just be the cot mattress, the odd cute outfit (a little more if it was a girl), more cloth nappies, food, and other ongoing costs.
So, how much does/did your second child cost per week/fortnight/etc?
ETA - if a moderator could take the "ty" off the title I'd be most grateful, not quite sure how that happened. :/
Interested to know as well, #2 is in the early baking stages now. Being so close to DD, we still have everything we need for another baby, DD will still be in nappies so that's a bigger expense I guess. I'd be interested to hear what people say, as we aren't going to have many immediate costs to having a new baby, just the added expenses day to day.
Honestly it's as cheap or as expensive as you make it. I know I paid less setting up for 3 babies then when some of my friends did for their kids. I op shopped, ebayed and looked on fb pages for bargains. We are looking at moving to the other side of town to cheaper housing and near better public school options for DS so we can afford a second car and DS' therapy sessions.
I will add the great thing with having 2 means you don't have to upgrade the car or stress to much about fitting into most houses. At the minute we make do with 3 kids in one room and DS still in with us but I would loveto have the extra space. Could you potentially move into an apartment or a duplex if MIL is against a second baby?
I think it is as expensive as you make it. Some people have to have everything new, some people will use hand downs. Some people use private schools and some use public schools. I don't think one more cost much more, well it hasn't for us anyway. My kids will all go to a catholic school, do sport, yes they have hand downs but they don't miss out on anything and we are on a low income ATM, I'm a sahm and DH is doing factory work.
DD2 didn't cost too much to begin with. Having two the same gender saved us a fortune in clothing (the initial huge costs were my fault though given my inability to stop buying cute baby stuff!). Small expenses in topping up the nappy stash etc but otherwise pretty good.
When it did get expensive is around the 2.5 yr old stage. Two kids doing swimming lessons, or gym classes, or dancing classes or whatever is a big price increase. They stop being able to share/hand down clothes so that increases. Now that both are at private school (again, our choice so its not necessarily an expense you HAVE to have) there's another big chunk out of our budget.
We had the same thoughts you're having when we were discussing the pros and cons of a #3. We probably can't afford it but we'll make it work.
I think the estimate would depend on age. If you've still got your cot, car seat, cloth nappies, you're breastfeeding and you've got more self control than me with baby clothing then for the first six months or so there's really nothing to buy. After that you've got start of solids which let's face it, they still eat nothing. I would think until you're talking 2yr + that's probably a generous estimate.
I agree with the others, its what ever you let it be.. We made the decision before we had any kids that we would not do private school as we wanted at least 3 kids, so we looked at schools when we chose where to live. I buy a few extra bits of clothes to top up DD2s wardrobe as the girls have been different seasons. I Op Shop where i can, use Gumtree and local pages for bigger stuff. We upgraded DD1s car seat so DD2 could have the babyseat. This time round we will be getting a second (larger) car, but that was always in the plan so we have been saving so we will have the cash for it. My cloth nappy stash will be on to the 3rd baby with just a few binned and replaced along the way, I reckon i have spend $800 on a pretty big stash.. but thats nothing to the cost of 3+ kids in sposies.
I have a budget of about $200 for the bits i need for belly babe, a new change mat, a few new towels, and I'll get a few clothes bits if bubs a boy (not a whole new batch by any means).
from one to two we upgraded to a pram with toddler seat, got another car seat (although dd1 was able to get a 6month-4 year booster which she would have needed at some point anyway) and a mei tai as we didnt have one before.
As we have three girls the cost of clothes arent too bad as there are lots of hand me downs but each season they do need a few new bits and pieces and shoes generally only last one child
Week to week food for one more isnt that much dearer we just each have more veg and less meat than we use to and I buy cheaper cuts of meat but still the same amount. School fees for dd1 were only $211 this year at a public primary, kindy fees were dearer about $160 per term. Child care costs are one thing that has impacted on our budget, not sure if that is something you need to consider. Nappies are an expense that can really add up if you have two and are using disposables. We have takeaway and treats less often but that doesnt hurt anyone.
Movies/zoos etc that have family passes are often family of four so the second child doesnt add much to those outings. Plus there are heaps of things to do that dont cost or cost very little, picnics at the park, fishing, walks to the beach. And thigns to do at home ie camping in the backyard dd1's favourite, baking, homemade playdough.
Swimming lessons are one of our biggest expenses but we think its important so we prioritise it. As yet we arent doing dance or other sports but if and when the girls ask I we will find somewhere we can afford. Talking to some of the mums at school there is a local dance class for $8 lesson or others that are $15+ per lesson.
As others have said you make do and find ways to save here and there. Budgeting really helps and we put money away each week for christmas as a couple of years we got caught short at christmas
That's good to know. I have found having one child at this age to be very inexpensive. I know this will change as she gets older, but honestly DH and I are just not the type of people to worry about things like setting up a nursery (DD coslept from birth, Piney will too). We bought a cheapish Ikea cot with a good mattress, we got a lot of her clothes second hand or free from friends, which we still have. Even when we buy her new clothes, it's budgeted in so that she has more than enough clothes (I usually buy her one item a week). We'll cloth from birth with Piney, DD hates cloth Breastfeeding and BLS are easy and free/cheap. We don't drive, but do have a carseat for DD. we may or may not get another carseat, or we might just not go anywhere in a car. The only thing that isn't super manageable is that DH and I planned on DD being an only child for about 4 years, so we splashed out and bought our Stokke. Obviously that can't be adapted for a toddler, so we're planning on baby wearing Piney for the first few months exclusively, like we did with DD. aside from that, I can't see the expenses getting to us until school, by which stage we'll be well equipped to handle that
We kept everything that DS1 used and so didn't need to buy anything really! I 'shop around' to buy consumable stuff like wipes when they are on special. We did need another carseat for DS1 but would have had to buy that regardless of whether we had another baby or not as he is now 3 and a half. I have two boys so we've reused most of the toys and clothes and have only had to get a few new items for DS2 so far. I know once he's older and doing swimming etc too we'll have those expenses to consider but like others have said, you live to your means. The biggest unexpected thing for us is that DS2 has had a few health issues that have required regular medication, specialist visits etc. Nothing major but still things that cost us money with him that we never had to pay for with DS1. So it might be worth considering that if your next bub had any special needs like that, would you be able to afford to meet them?
The only extra's we've spent money on with no 2 as a newbie is girl stuff. We probably could have got away with dressing her in boys clothes too but I refused because baby clothes are so cheap anyway. I got most of DD's clothes from kmart or big w, cotton on kids & target when they have specials or ebay. I bought her some girly nappies just for fun. We use MCN's for DS so we didn't really need them but I wanted them. I'm not too worried about school. We intend to send them to the local public school and I'm hoping by that time, our financial situation will improve. The main extra cost now is that she's in daycare but it's not as bad as I expected.
All we needed was a two seater pram because of the close age gap between the girls, dd1 was still in it a lot and we also got a toddler bed for her too. We still had everything else. She was breastfed so all we needed once she was born were nappies. When she was about 8 weeks I had to get different outfits because she hated clothes around her tummy with the reflux. So she didn't cost us much more at all.
Ill use from baby 2 to baby 3 as an.example as obviously DS1 doesnt contribute to our expenses.
Being both girls saved us a lot but as everyone has said you make it as inexpensive or expensive as you please. Having the twins hasnt impacted out budget much either even now when i can no longer breastfeed (always have as a back up it may not be possible) we got to 8 months and i planned to go longer but the boys just werent up for it. Now they all eat regular meals we obviously spend more but we shopped around to find where is the cheapest or better value.
eBay was also very helpful we got the 2 cots plus a pram and highchair thrown in for $120.
How much did/does your second baby cost?
) MIL doesn't want another baby in the house.
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Breastfeeding and BLS are easy and free/cheap. We don't drive, but do have a carseat for DD. we may or may not get another carseat, or we might just not go anywhere in a car. The only thing that isn't super manageable is that DH and I planned on DD being an only child for about 4 years, so we splashed out and bought our Stokke. Obviously that can't be adapted for a toddler, so we're planning on baby wearing Piney for the first few months exclusively, like we did with DD. aside from that, I can't see the expenses getting to us until school, by which stage we'll be well equipped to handle that 
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