The book has also made me think of another thread here somewhere (I can't remember where) where we were talking about building self-esteem in our children. Some people were saying SE should come from within and therefore instead of saying to your child 'wow, I think you did really well' or something you should rephrase it to 'you must feel proud of yourself' and not saying things such as 'good girl' etc. Anyone remember that thread??
Pinky McKay talks about that stuff in her book "Toddler Tactics"....