We had to take DD to a funeral recently. I dressed her as usual. We just made sure that if she began to cry we could easily move to the back to settle her so she didn't interrupt. Unfortunately for us, she began to cry as soon as the service started so DH and I ended up moving outside (they had a speaker), and I fed her then we played with some toys until the service was over. There were a number of small children at the funeral and no-one seemed bothered when they cried. Kristy's suggestion of having someone else there is a great one as children can pick up the vibe when their mum is upset and they can then become upset too. I think people tend to think of funerals as life celebrations nowadays so the thing of only wearing black has gone out. Sorry to hear about your loss and I hope the day isn't too hard for you all.