I do think that being a calm parent will have some effect on a baby. But gosh, we all have different personalities, and I don't think we are totally moulded by our parents. Much as we might like to, we can't control everything to do with our kids.
My DS is a lovely, social, bubbly child, everyone always comments on how happy he is. But he is a real handful, really full on Yet, I have often been told that I am such a relaxed mum. And I think I am pretty relaxed with him, it's just his personality shone through from a very early age
ETA Fiona, it's great that your DD doesn't suffer with her reflux, but most babies do, it causes them terrible pain. There was certainly no laughing in this house, just tears all around. It's the only time I've cried because of being stressed about DS.
I used to think this - I was a very laid back first time mum, never stressed about anything much and DD was also very easy, laid back and calm...slept great, ate well, no dramas at all.
Then I had my DS.
I was still the same as I always was.....HE on the otherhand was about as opposite to DD as he could have possibly been. Needed mummy constantly, breastfed constantly, slept crappy...he just has a completely different temperament.
So I think ultimately it comes down to the temperament they are born with - they way the mother is may have some bearing but not much at the end of the day I don't think.
That said though I DO think that mother's who are highly strung tend to rub off on their babes...have definitely seen some of that with my friends.
Yet, I have often been told that I am such a relaxed mum. And I think I am pretty relaxed with him, it's just his personality shone through from a very early age
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