Ok, all is good!! Thanks Sam for your advice! I realised I would not enjoy having a carseat I don't like, so Im going to pass it on to MIL, who will need one and was going to use a second hand one (at least this is new) and I will buy the one I had my heart set on. I have a friend who gets it cheap, so it's not so bad. I don't want to tell my friends, as it couldn't be returned now anyway as all the packaging is gone etc. Im happy to give it to MIL, it's a good seat, just not from birth and for everyday use.
Thanks again xo