Ahhh... my DS is not unique then!? Thanks for sharing ladies. Although madB, I'm not so sure I liked your sharing. 15 months??!
Does exactly the same thing when worn. And at already over 8kgs at 4 months and my shonky back, I'm almost relieved that this is not the solution - I'd break!
Today I just rolled with it. Combined a few strategies from above... let him stay awake until he was really tired rather than settle 'at the first sign of tiredness' like you're told which meant he passed out pretty easily - just rocked him in the pram... wish he'd still feed to sleep, little menace! And didn't bother with even trying to resettle except once while DD was asleep and he seemed drowsy enough to go with it.
Overall he had very slightly less sleep than usual but still went down tonight with the same degree of resistance and I certainly found that I was less stressed which in turn helps DD.
I remember a few months before DS was born someone asked me what I had learned from DD's babyhood that I hoped to apply this time around. My reply was "don't fight the baby". As in, don't try to resist what the baby naturally wants / does or you both end up unhappy and nobody 'wins'. Somewhere along the line I forgot this and had started to 'fight' again. Thanks all... letting go now.
I was going to reply along those lines, but didn't want to depress you! I had a revelation when my DS 1 was about 4 months. He slept for 40 minutes, to the minute exactly. No matter how much rocking or shhhing etc could get him back to sleep.
So I just realised that he wasn't going to have any more sleep and that was that. Life was so much easier then.
FWIW, he grew out of it himself around 8 months when he moved to two sleeps a day.
My other mantra is "Babies are humans too" - which means I try to think of how I deal with things and then use that to work out how to deal with them, or at least just to make me feel better about it.
E.g. I know sometimes I am so unbelievably tired, I try to nap and can't, I toss and turn and get irritated and then normally get up and feels better than trying to force myself to sleep.
Or - If I have an alarm on for a flight or something, I never sleep as well, or if I am thinking I am really tired have a big day tomorrow must sleep well - I don't - so I remind myself that DS is very sensitive to how I am feeling and if I am thinking right I need him to sleep now due to whatever or because he will be too tired for whatever later - he picks up on that and so doesn't sleep as well.
Also I am a great cat napper/power napper, and I do think it is a great life skill as adults to have, so although may be painful now figure might be useful for them in future.
DS was a 45-minuter. DD a 40-minuter. it's quite fascinating. DD is cat napping again now. just comes and goes. DS had awesome day sleeps after 15 months though - 1.5hours at first, then 2.5-3 hours (until he decided, quite abruptly, that he wasn't going to do it any more)
Santosha, glad you remembered that! I had the same thing with DD. I am a sloooow learner sometimes.
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just comes and goes. DS had awesome day sleeps after 15 months though - 1.5hours at first, then 2.5-3 hours (until he decided, quite abruptly, that he wasn't going to do it any more)
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