Very reassuring to know that similar things have happened with the transition to 1 sleep for others; I wasn't really sure what to make of it. She actually slept for 1.5 hours uninterrupted this lunchtime, so I will have to ask questions on BB more often if the immediate effect is an improved situation!

Softy, I am sure you are right, I think she must be feeling some of the stress that I am feeling given the current situation. It makes perfect sense for them to be up about the same amount of time either side of their nap I suppose - can I ask, would you offer lunch before or after the nap, or did it depend on the time of the nap? I agree about MG too, the beauty of posting on here is that most people are pro-gentle parenting so know where you're coming from and understand the parameters that you are working within a bit better.

Thanks for making me feel better about it girls, I know deep down that i should just trust my instincts, but sometimes it's really easy to waver.