ok. so I have a little more time now cause DH is home... but that still doesn't mean I wont have to rush off =P. So, a few months ago, when Spock was littler, like 2ish months? we had problems with her waking every hour and wanting a feed and no settling. I soon worked out I think it was the too frequent feeding that was causing the problems and she wasn't hungry, but had wind and sucking/feeding was the only thing she knew would make her feel better so she wanted it. I decided that if it was less than 2 hours since she last woke up I would try and settle her without feeding her. the first few times it was hard. and it felt bad refusing to feed such a young baby, but after even one night I noticed the difference. when she did feed they seemed like better feeds, and she stopped waking so often, her wind settled. I then later read a thing about over supply and too much milk from the aba website and basically was exactly what i thought and i had done everything they suggested on it (yay for mummies instinct and just doing what i felt would work).
now, i dont think it is the same issue. but inbetween now and then I use to sit up to feed her (because i could never work out the laying down bit) and burb her etc in the middle of the night and whilst she would still be on the boob when she feel asleep, i feel it helped her settle for longer, even though i meant i was sitting up awake for an hour at a time. now in the last few weeks i have perfected the laying down to feed thing ive gotten lazy and sloppy and now she expects a boob to be put in her mouth straight away and we dont even have to wake up properly, which at the time is good cause she is quiet, but is waking more frequently and i am finding im not rested by the morning because i have slept in an odd position.
I think little things like always keeping it dark at night, I dont talk to her at night, (i have always done this though), even not having to change her nappy at night now helps cause even though i was down to only having to change her once during the night, that was enough to stimulate her too much.

how this is the turning point for you =) and if you to chat let me know =) im going to try and be more routine at night again too. Ive also tried the offering more feeds during the day in the hope it would keep her full over night...but I don't think this has made a difference. it just cuts down her evening/pre bed feed...