nell... I hear you, I HEAR YOU...I hear you!! Ahhhh I too have days where there really isn't much to praise at all. I try, try, try to keep my cool but when I'm just too tired I don't have the patience I need and I then feel worse and I think that my mood and my patience gets even worse cos I'm kicking myself and it's a vicious little circle. I do praise him as much as I can (although sometimes I seriously think he doesn't even hear it!) and we do have a sticker chart which I think is starting to sink in cos just last night I gave him sticker for taking some toys to Elijah cos he was whinging. I said... wow great job that was really nice to do that, let's go and get a sticker. Well, I went and had my shower after that and Andy told me that whilst I was in the shower Oskar went and gave Elijah a toy again, turned some music on for him and then said "more stickers now daddy" lol. So maybe, just maybe there is a light at the end of this tunnel!!! Definitely harder when sleep deprived and tired though for sure.