I explained to DD that mummy threw them away - she actually saw me throw them into the backyard in a fit of rage (I know - bad, bad mummy!). Then we said that the birds picked them up and flew away with them but if she was a good girl she will get a "surprise" tomorrow for being brave- which kind of settled her. I should have also explained that she was actually really good (considering) during the day yesterday coz she had her beloved cousins to play with for most of the day and in the evening we visited my cousin who had a newborn baby- and "no dummy". It was just that bad patch at night that was really bad. I'm at work at the moment though so I don't know how my mum is handling it - I'm scared to ring n check - guess we'll see how she goes this arvo and into the night.

You are right about being at the point of no return - there is no way I can re-introduce them - I have to bite the bullet - surely she can't be distressed forever?! The guilt however is killing me!