Oh I felt terrible guilt about getting rid of her dummy. I was in tears the first night because she was sobbing so much that it broke my heart. but in the end, she settled so well without it that I realised that it wasn't a need, it was habit. So I felt much better about it all. She's become a lot more outgoing and seems happier without it. She's so much chattier. It will improve and dummies will be all a distant memory. I think what you have told her is perfect and she will accept it and soon you won't have to talk about it at all. She will adjust. They all do. Be prepared that the tantrums may seem worse because you no longer have a dummy to rely on to settle them down. But really they are the same as they always were. It's good for them to learn a little self settling at this age anyway. Let us know how she went today