Charly, I am really glad that you had success and have peace with your decision. I have found that the gentle approach has worked wonders with my boys. Perhaps I have been lucky, but it is really great having kids that go to sleep easily and never having had to put up with the awful stress and distress of any form of CC (or whatever you want to call it).

This is a personal opinion, but I feel like we (as a society) are too busy in our lives to raise kids to be kids. Babies didn't used to need to be "trained" to sleep as there was a community to help out raising the child, and the parents didn't have to get up at 5am to go to work the next morning. It starts with trying to get a child to sleep through the night before they are biologically ready, and continues. Then it's "teaching" them to be good even when we've dragged them around the country side. Making them rush to get ready in the mornings. When do they just get to be kids and do things in their own time, as the individual people that they are? It is sad that society doesn't recognise the value in supporting parents to be parents. If it did, babies waking in the night would be tolerated, as it should be. And babies would be allowed to learn to sleep without having to upset themselves first. This is speaking very generally and is not talking about any specific situation.