I'm glad to find this thread. Peter is still a short napper and I read on one site that one way to help him extend his naps is to have set nap times during the day. I don't really do this- basically I go from his cues and put him down when he is tired (which tends to fall into a VERY roughly similar-ish schedule each day). So it got me freaking out that I was doing this major dis-service to my child by not giving him more structure. But then the thought of a routine that says "you must nap each day at 10am" also freaks me out.... life just doesn't seem that clean and predictable.

So I am glad to hear others are "child-lead". To me it seems like going with the flow, whereas when I try to impose longer naps etc on him, its a constant uphill battle. But then the inevitable mother guilt kicked in and I wondered if maybe I should be the adult and lead and not let him lead....sigh.... sorry, extreme routine confusion in this corner!!!