Do you say I Love You???

[Ilithyia]

Awww we are such greats mums are'nt we! It is kinda sad to see how many of us were'nt told it when we were younger though. Good too see the times are a changing.

I say a lot of "mummy loves you's". Briley get a little embarrased when i try and get her to say I love you too Colby or too me.

[ej]

I say it everynight when I go check DS1 before I head off to bed and when one off us heads out. Hugs and kisses I ask for throughout the day but wether I get them or not.

My parents often say it but DH says he has never heard his parents say it which i think is sad.

[MrsFabuloso]

I;m an all day lover too, hehe. Everytime I pick DD up I say it! I kiss and hug her all the time too, I always make sure I tell DH too before he goes to work if I see him and every night when we go to bed. And lots of times in between, though if we don't see each other much, I make sure I tell him every day. I also tell my mum and brothers when I talk to them on the phone. It is something that should not be left unsaid

[Lucy]

I can only remember my Dad ever telling me he loved me twice. BUT for some reason I just KNEW that he did, thank goodness.

My Mum was far more verbose about her "I love you's" when we were children, but these days she never says it?

With DH and I and Olivia & Charlie & Lexie......it gets says a lot. DH & I often do the "No, but I love YOU more" routine........

Or "I love you"
"I love you too"
"I love you three"........and so on and so on!

Or a la Nut Brown Hare "I love you to the moon and back" to which Olivia replies" But I love you to Granny's house and back" (which is apparently further, as you can see the moon, but you can't see Granny's house from our place!)

Sometimes I'll sit one of them down over a snack and look them in the eyes and tell them everything about them that I'm proud of and then tell them they're very special and unique and that I love them very much

Christine, I do this at bedtime with them. Olivia asks me, when she is tired and snuggly "Tell me all the things you love, Mummy". I love that she knows she can ask, and I love that this affirmation is what sends her into the land of nod.........

We also have a special code too......If I blow a little kiss (no hands) with a little wink, then Olivia knows that "mummy loves me and is proud of me".......we use it as a "secret" code for when we are out and about, especially if she is being really good and well behaved.........

That said, I overhead a conversation the other day between DH & Olivia........"Guess what Daddy? Mummy loves me EVEN if I am naughty! And even when Charlie throws food on the floor at lunchtime, she STILL loves him! And when Lexie stands up in the bath and Mummy gets cranky, she even still loves Lexie then!"

Bless.........

[MrsFabuloso]

Ohhhh Lucy that made me all warm and fuzzy.....

[Kazbah]

Lucy, you have painted a beautiful picture of your home, and the way your DH and you have raised your children. Thankyou.

I hope only that I can relate such a story in a few years!

[SJmumof2]

I am sooooo emotional when it comes to my kids!
Everytime they do something cute i say i love you. I find myself saying it all day!
There is nothing more precious then a child saying 'I love you mummy' out off the blue.

[MrsB26]

I am not a mum yet but i do remember both my parents saying it alot to us as youngsters.

It was met with a response from me saying "i love you too 150 times and just a hundred". I still smile now when i think of it because i loved them so much ( and still do ) and 100 and 150 were the biggest numbers I knew at the time and it was the absolute most I could love them. lol

I'm actually a little embarressed posting this as i have never told anyone else about it before but i did post it because i think that saying I Love You to your children is the most precious thing ever! Keep it up xo

[Ambah]

Lucy - that is just absolutely beautiful... warms my heart!

No need to be embarrassed MrsB26, I think its very sweet!

[Zee]

All the time here, everytime I pick her up etc. I also give her a kiss each time after saying it!!

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

All the time. I say it, sing it, giggle it into his tummy... I just adore my little man and can't tell him enough! He gets loads of kisses too and he loves giving kisses back.

The best bit, though, is when he runs up and kisses my knee before charging off again (OK, I have to be stood near one of his cruise-aides) or looks at me and says "luv-oo". He's so perfect!

DS is also told he's strong, clever, funny, special, handsome... you just can't get enough compliments as a baby or young child. You need a solid foundation of feel-good to get through life.

[Nadine216]

I'm a lover too
Saying I love you in our house is like breathing. I will tell DH everytime he comes in the house and just before we go to sleep. He once asked me if I mean it, if I say it that much (he was not raised like that) I told him SURE!, I would not say something like that if I did not mean it! I am getting him to say it lots too - and I know he means it. I will tell dd each and every chance I get that she is pretty and special and smart and loved and funny and special. Kissing and hugging and cuddels all round.
I was raised in a very close, affectionate house. We would kiss everytime we go out of the house - both parents and siblings (you never know if you are coming back, kwim??) So I try to incorporate that in my family too. I personally think there is something seriously wrong if you can't tell your child that you love him/her.
I have a rhyme for dd at night - Mommy loves you *kiss* Daddy loves you *kiss* Sweet dreams my angel *kiss* - just as she drifts off, like a subliminal (sp) message - YES I am brainwashing my child!!
And my mom and I have "secret" sign too - holding up three fingers (like you teach a three year old to show ppl how old he is) that means I LOVE U. So as I drive off at her house, I would wave and show her our sign - making it just that tad bit more special.

[jaike and jaides mummy]

hi guys,
my mum and dad never said they loved me or that they were proud of me,
my mum and dad split when i was little and my dad now lives in adelaide,
and now he says its my fault we never kept in touch, but i was 5 yrs old,
anyway, my mum never said it iether, but she did show it, we had everythig we wanted , and thats how she showed it,
me im the opposite, i tell my kids all the time, even tho' they are 12 and 16,
and they tell me,
my youngest son was asked to write a short essay about why his best friend was his best friend, and he wrote about me!!!
well that essay went all round the staff room
and his teacher was sooo moved she phoned me up to tell me about it,
mandxxx

[Nelle]

That's lovely that your son considers you a best friend Mand! Well done!

My parents weren't big 'I love you'-ers, but me and my sis have NEVER doubted their love for us! It might have been said, but I don't remember it. They are both from families of 7 kids, perhaps that's a factor, it might make them very practical. And I think I never doubted their love because of that practicality, they spent time with us, hanging out, chatting, playing, laughing.
It's nice to hear 'I love you', and we say it these days, but as a kid, their words didn't matter to us, their actions spoke the loudest.
Hopefully this might be an encouragement to those who don't find it easy to verbalise their feelings - it's nice to hear, but I don't remember hearing it and know without a doubt that my parents did (and still do) completely adore me!

[rolymogs]

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[Rouge]

Only a billion times a day I don't remember my parents every saying "I love you" unless it was before bed. Paris says it all the time too. We used to go through a phase of saying "I love you more than xyz" (an inanimate object, Paris used to say Lollies & Chocolate). We also read the "Guess how much I love you" Book

[Keira]

My family was the same when i was growing up, no-one ever said I love you, and they still don't! I tried saying it to every member of my family once and they all freaked out and thought I was dying or something.

So now that I have my DD I tell her so heaps of times everyday! It feels so good telling her even though she can't understand me, i'm sure she knows. DP and I tell each other I love you literally 50+ times a day.

[Lucy]

My kids, being very open with love have said "I love you so much Poppa" and he's replied with "I love you too". It's amazing what a child can do.

That has really touched my heart.......thank you for sharing Rolymogs......xx