In a sense, yeah, it is easier having more than one. Mainly due to the fact that they play and entertain each other. But it does mean double the amount of toys, clothes etc, double the washing, double the housework!
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In a sense, yeah, it is easier having more than one. Mainly due to the fact that they play and entertain each other. But it does mean double the amount of toys, clothes etc, double the washing, double the housework!
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i think besides the initial baby years, its easier to have more than one, as they can play together (and i suppose fight together too unfortunately).... i often look at our 2.5 year old and think 'oh she needs a playmate sibling NOW'.... she'll have to wait a while until this next baby is big enough to be a playmate, but i definitely feel if there is more than one they can occupy each other, rather than always having to interact with an adult for entertainment....
i'm sorry but i think four kids would be a lot of work!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when they are older it would get easier, but there would be a lot of car trips to all their activities etc....
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A lot of this sounds like how we ended up with 4 dogs and 3 cats! I would never get rid of any of them, they are our kiddies too, but they are hard work and i do sometimes long for the before-we-had-so-many life :-)
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well I might be opposite here, I thought going from 1 to 2 to be twice as hard but found it 3 times harder!
Maybe when they are older might be different I just found it difficult to juggle both their needs which always seemed to be at the same time.
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I found it hard too, thought it was going to be a walk in the park.. LOL
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When I had DD1 I was so nervous about having 2 children, simply because I thought that one filled up my time. Then DD2 came along and I felt the difference big time initially. Granted DD2 was a handful and DD1 didn't want to share her parents affections. I think I got used to having 2 when DD2 was around 6 months. DD1 matured a bit and DD2 settle and we go into a groove. Now DD3 is here and I am coping ok. Although having 3 has greatly increased the washing and housework for some reason.
Alot has to do with the kids personalities and from my experience the age gaps. I like the age gap of 2 years with my first two but the small age gap between DD2 and DD3 has made things limiting for now.
Goodluck with you decision
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my mum had 6, and she always said the first 3 are the hardest, because with each one, some aspect of you life has to change dramatically. After that, you barely even notice...apparently.
Personally, I find having three is harder in some ways and easier in others. I plan on having more, but I'll definitely having a bigger gap before the next one.
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Yes AND no. Most of the time life is generally chaos ROFL, but in a good way. I've been so lucky that the moments when you lust after the BC life (before children LOL) are few and far between and nothing a bit of a time out doesn't fix. It's pretty full on, especially as they get older and you are chasing after sports and school events and social things like birthday parties and it seems like you are never home. But I wouldn't change it for the world. Because I think ahead to what it would be like when they are all adults and coming home for visits etc and it makes it all worth it kwim? We had our first 3 close together (20mths apart) and I found that you're still in that groove of looking after a baby so you don't notice it much by the time you get to #3 LOL, but with a larger gap between 3 and 4 it was harder, but great that the older ones were that bit older that they could do things for themselves and I can get them to help me tidy the house, pick up their things etc and we all pitch in and help. But I think that had we only had 1 or two chidren our lives would still be as busy because you would still be doing the same things like school and sports and all that - as it is we choose activities that all of them will be able to do like Auskick and little athletics etc. And there isn't much more to tidy up around the house - 1 child can make as much mess as 4 children - trust me! Oh and there is the washing, but it's not an issue you know?
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I only have two but I find two easier then one. Mine have a big age gap (7yrs) and they have different needs but I still find two easier then when I only had one. I would love more. I can picture a baby fitting into our life easily but I am yet to experience that so there of course there is every possibility it would make life much more difficult if/when no3 comes along.
My mum had 4. She coped well with three but lost it having the 4th and raising him but there was a big gap between number 3 and 4. I think that was the reason more so then having 4.
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I think it is easier in that you already have the skills so you aren't so stressed about being a 'first timer', but number 2 quadrupled the amount of washing here lol so that wan't easier. DD does occupy DS a fair bit now, so I guess that is easier as she only had me.
Dunno, my two have a 3year gap so DD is fairly independent, not sure I would find it easier with two littlies though.
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