Don't be pressured or feel guilty. DH and I made the mistake of going to a New Years Eve party one week after our DD was born!!! We were young parents 24/27. And none of our friends had had children (most have by now and it's very interesting to see that they won't go out at all these days!). We were told to put our DD in the spare room (with the coats on the bed). I spent the whole party distracted and checking her every 5 minutes.... a total ridiculous selfish waste of time. I feel so ashamed now. Y'know I also kinda resent those same friends these days because they don't remember putting this kind of pressure on us. DH was in a band with some of them too and always made to feel bad if he said he couldn't keep leaving me at home with our baby while he was out having fun. Lo and behold as soon as these friends had babies the band folded. Pfft. I get so cross when this kinda thing happens. :fuming: Still, we are stronger, more assertive people for it all.