Thanks for the replies.

I have tried the food one, which didn't work.
I have tried the toy one, he gets to go outside on the verandah while I sit inside by the window feeding... but he would just come back inside anyway lol.

I should also mention Brendan has Sensory Intergration Dysfunction... basically he's a sensory seeker. Which is hard enough when I can help him.

I have also tried getting Brendan to 'help' which only works in the first few mins, changing nappy ect.

Glad to hear it gets easier lol