We found it hard to settle into a routine at first, but ds had reflux so needed a lot of attention so it was hubby with the girls while I calmed down ds or vice versa. Dd2 has always been great she would happily get blankets, dummy's or give cuddles we just had to watch she wasn't too rough. Dd1 was in need of more attention and went backwards with toilet training in the beginning.
Nowadays we have a great routine we all eat together, the kids play happily they love getting the cars, trains or blocks out to play together. At times ds goes to a different area to play and dd1 has a table and chairs in her room she can escape to if it's too noisy.
I find I am busier but it's fun being around them.
DD2 was a super cruisy baby so sometimes it was like she wasn't even here! She just slotted in so well to the way our family was at the time. I didn't notice any problems with the way they got on - they are all 20 months apart and they played together well. Of course there were times when they would fight and it would be 2 against one etc, but that's just a part of life - if you have 2 kids they can fight with each other too kwim? When she was first born though they ignored her really - DS1 wasn't interested in babies and DD1 was too little to be too worried about her too. It wouldn't have been till DD2 was 6mths+ that they really started to develop their relationships with each other.
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