Feeding and sleeping stuff/issues/questions

[Teeki]

Well, see what you have here is your DS and he's not your DD

Lol I was so hoping he'd be just the same, would have been easier on me!

I've noticed he only does the crazy bobble head thing at night, never during the day. And I think that's probably because I care more at night. With DD she was all I had, and it was all new and I was so focused on sleep - reading the silly books and writing down when she slept or fed or how long for. So I think I tried to force things a little with her. With DS, I have too much going on to notice what time he sleeps and how long for. If he's not asleep I don't mind, he just goes on his mat, in the swing or I carry him more.At

But then at night, when DD has gone to bed I guess I just think he should too, he shouldn't be up playing on the floor at 9pm. I think I'll just have to let that go

Last night he didn't wake til 2 - so I'm very happy with a 5 hour sleep, I think he's only done that twice before! He had one side and I just put him down, but he was well and truly awake and wanting the other side, he had it straight away when I got him out. Seems like the only way to make him wake up for it is to put him down lol. Then after that I put him back again, he did the wriggling thing and fell asleep on his own. He never opens his eyes during this so I don't think he fully wakes up, he's just doing whatever to get comfy or something I guess. It just feels weird to me to not actively get him to sleep myself, just let him do it. But it was good, because I was only up with him for half an hour, if I keep trying to settle him it takes over an hour. Then he didn't wake til 6, so a fantastic night for us!

Oh, he has just come out of a wonder week, so he's noticing everything and is so much more aware and wanting to be up and looking at things. I think that's maybe why he's sleeping less and later, there's so much for him to see now.

[onthefly]

Re head bobbing, have you tried laid back nursing or lying down to feed? Sometimes the problem is gravity pulling their head back because they're in the cradle hold (or similar) and not over the breast where gravity would pull them down on to it.
Sometimes it's just that they need a bit of time/help to get calm before they feed. Even letting him suck on your finger for a bit can help with that.

Anyway, it sounds like you're figuring it all out yourself

[Teeki]

Thanks, I'll try the lying back thing tonight if he needs it. It still seems to be because he's not hungry though, he's very strong and puts himself where he wants - when he's doing that I can't hold his head close at all. When he does finally calm and latch on he goes straight to sleep without much actual feeding, so I think I need to just calm him first then help him get to sleep. Will see how he goes tonight!

[chody47]

Just to throw something else random into the mix....if he's fussing around when feeding, could reflux (even silent reflux) be an issue?

As for the wanting to go to sleep kind of on his own, that's ok too. DD2 was especially like this for me. In some ways it made my life easier as I could just pop her in bed and head straight back out to DD1

[JLeigh29]

Aww, he sounds like a real cutie.

Just wanted to say it's been great reading this thread as a reminder to me that DS2 will NOT be the same as DS.... And I can't plan for, or expect it to be that way. I hope I can be as intuitive as you seem to be....the control freak in me is already worried though.