You all gave me the kick up the bum i needed to knock the guilts out of me....well a little bit anyway!
I rang a place near us and im going to go in with dd for an afternoon and have a play, see what we think and if we both like it!! I was so worried cause DD feeds to sleep and i asked the lady how sleep time works and she said they have enough staff in the room to pat the kids to sleep if thats what they like! they sound so lovely but we will see.

Thats so true about not having the support groups that used to exist, i have no family atall in this country, DP only has his dad and he is in sydney. i tried to find like minded mothers around here but i think they are all at home on the computer chatting on BB