I felt guilty after DD was born and it really shook me because I didn't expect to feel that way at all. It was very overwhelming. I felt guilty that DS wasn't my baby anymore even though he was still a baby, guilty that I had to share him, and guilty for feeling guilty! It got better over time and DS and DD adore each other and I still have my one on one time with each of them which is so valuable and I cherish it.
Why is it good for children to have siblings? If you don't want to inflict a sibling on your child, you don't have to.
Having said that, I don't mind inflicting siblings on DS - when he's a bit older, as he's not the sort of little one who can cope with a sibling, especially a younger one, and if I have another like him I want the age gap to be biiiiig. Is your daughter ready for a sibling? Will she be in 9 months' time? Some will, some won't.
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