Finding it extra hard at the moment....a few words of advice/help would be lovely!!!

[BhoysGirl]

Lots of good advice & ideas given already, so not sure that I have that much to add. My DS, when he decides to melt down, is impossible to reason with - it's like he really has to calm himself down, cos hugging him, even talking to him just makes things worse. I find it hard to not be able to help him through in a way, but sometimes the walking away, not in anger, is just the thing he needs me to do. It's something that the carers at his daycare have commented on as well - that he's just a kid that needs to process things for himself for a minute or so, and that once he's had that opportunity, we can go back to him and actually talk about the problem/come up with a solution. Very frustrating at times though.

[Fleur]

You might find she's just going through a developmental stage and is having a bit of trouble communicating what she wants to

I was going to say the same, it could be a phase? She sounds like she's blowing off steam.
Sometimes things get worse before they get better...but it will pass Hang in there

[MummyNaomi]

Awwww, it sounds like normal 'toddlerhood' to me, not that it makes it any easier for you hon!

I hope this passes soon, such a big change in behaviour is often a developmental leap as the other lovely ladies mentioned, so hang in there

Sounds like you are doing a great job, just keep being consistant and distract, distract, distract!

Heaven - you have inspired me to get Pinky McKays Toddler book in advance to prepare also , I really enjoyed her "sleeping like a baby"

[beckoes]

my copy of pinkys book is on order and i cant wait to get my hands on it, although today has been 'a little' easy, i think thats mainly because i have been on her behaviour 500%....the second she is getting a tiny bit frustrated or annoyed or bored or anything really...i have distracted or removed the situation, its been tiring but we have avoided too many major melt downs, although i cant be this fastidious (sp) all the time so i hope its juat a phase and she will at least be able to read a book on her own again soon without chucking a wobbler cause the page got stuck together ...lol, have to see the funny side!
we actually have this little book with all these faces of kids having different emotions..happy, sad, scared...etc....and also 'where is the green sheep'...she loves 'scared sheep' and its helped her to understand different feelings etc and she had a bit of a tantie today and we (DD and I) kinda decided it was because she was excited to see a friend of DPs that she loves.....was pretty awesome to actually get to the bottom of one!
I think it could be a developmental thing now too....a lady in the shops today asked DD her name and she actually answered with her name.....shes never done that before! she normally says 'baby'!
Thanks for all the replies, i really appreciate it!!!