I rang DH and his simple no BS response was "F**k the money, you're not taking her back, no way, we'll do it ourselves".

I feel horrible for her being put through that when it doesn't seem to be the norm. Poor wee sausage. I'm going to take her swimming on Monday - just the two of us, to make sure she's not completely traumatised. I hope this hasn't done any damage. DD is very sensitive and aware of her surroundings so fingers crossed she'll be ok - she loves swimming with me!

Thanks x