hmm, my dh does a lot, but i feel guilty because he does that much, but I do have clingy children too, and the more tired they are the more clingy they are.

being a second child i got a cradle this time, on wheels, If she was unsettled I would wheel her around the house with me, and could put it beside the bed with me.
my dh i want to sleep because he drives too much and I don't want him crashing. But if the night gets so bad that i start swearing, that is when he wakes up. or last night where i just wanted some sleep so i left dd in our room in the cradle and went to the lounge only to have to go back up there because she was screeming like a banshee and he couldn't settle her.

now she is older she sits in a highchair to watch me making tea, i will just lie her on the floor where she can see me having a shower.

I don't mind the occasional bath or shower with my bubbas, and it's relaxing for them too. hard to wash your hair, but is a small pick me up and then you can wash your hair when dh gets home.

I guess if I were going to suggest anything i would look into hiring a cradle or something, you can get some really cool ones that attach to the bed so there is one side down and you can reach bub (try aba), plus she can be on your side and your dh won't hear her, men don't hear newborn noises.

We have a hug a bub, but i find this very restrictive when tring to do things because I can't reach the bench, it's like being 9 months pregnant again.

have you tried not giving the formula? if she's chucking it she might not need it, and it may feel weird to you but at 6 weeks it's not unusual for a baby to want to feed heaps, and it's important to build your supply too.

if you can don't do any house work, your dh can cook or buy bbq chooks, but try spending a few days just feed her when she wants, sleep when she sleeps, have a shower with her, and just don't care about anything.