The advice you have been given so far is good advice. This is something I am worried about with Tom as he is such a good eater so far. Jack was a bad eater and is now a great eater.

One thing we learnt with Jack, was that it makes the problem worse when you give them something they like when they refuse the first food. As a pp said, kids do not starve themselves (I got advice from paed, MCHN and dietician too!!), so offer the food you want him to eat. If he doesn't eat them, don't give him anything else. When you offer an alternative, they learn to hold out for the food they want. It is hard to do as a mother as we hate to think of our kids starving, but I was told over and over and it proved to be true, if they are hungry they will eat. This is not an overnight fix mind you, but it did eventually work for us and Jack was perfectly healthy in the meantime. So, no, you shouldn't need to fry and crumb everything for the rest of your life!

Another thing is how much milk does he drink? We were giving Jack too much milk and this reduced his appetite for food. We were told to limit it to 3 cups a day (one with each main meal) and this also made a difference.

I am really sure this is just a phase and will pass. Hang in there and I am sure you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. If it helps you at all, now that Jack is eating well, he is eating REALLY well, and loves fruit, veges etc. I am sure your DS will soon be telling you how much he loves carrots!