ummm okay my ds was 4 1/2 yrs old when he gave up his dummy, we didn't worry about it to much as we had a terribly stressful few years and i just didn't have the strength to change anything, i just needed to focus on day to day living. he only had them with his teddy when he went to bed and also if he was sick or upset, and he never took them out of the house not even to step outside to get the mail lol he used to hide it under his pillow. he gave them to santa to give to a baby on his suggestion and there was no problem

lani has a dummy but only for sleeping and when she wakes she gives them to me, actually it is quite a good tool for getting her to bed especially at night, she is so full of beans and so happy to play and spend time with us that we really need her in bed around 7.30 so we can have quality time with ds before he goes to bed at 8 for school. when we say time for bed quite often she will say no not yet play, but as soon as we say oh don't you want your dummy she says yes nigh nigh now, tis very cute and we will continue with this for a bit longer i guess.